There are many things we can become addicted to: Tobacco, drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, sex
and work to name a few. People may even become addicted to seeking approval and acceptance
or to anything that will give them an adrenaline rush. In my opinion, people can even be addicted
to drama and chaos!
People become addicted to the things mentioned above as a way to escape or to fill a void in
their life. As an example, unresolved grief is one of the painful experiences that people will try to
escape from by possibly self-medicating with drugs and alcohol. It becomes a way to cope and/or
numb the pain.
Addictions are debilitating and do not only impact the addict. His or her family and friends are
affected as well. Society as a whole is affected. The misconception is that if the person would
just get help and give up whatever it is that they are addicted to then life would get back to
normal. It doesn’t work that way.
The person has a long road ahead of them when working through their addictions and revealing
what’s beneath the surface. They may experience a lot of shame and guilt about what has been
happening and they struggle with the loss of who they were and could have been. They
experience the loss of shattered dreams and goals for the future. They pay a hefty price for their
Family and friends also pay a hefty price. They also experience the loss of who the person was
and who they could be. They may also be affected financially and socially because of the
addict’s choices. They experience the loss of trust for they have heard many times that the addict
will not do it again. And they experience a loss of their dreams and goals for the family as a
Addictions are far too complex a topic to discuss in this blog, but it’s an important and crushing problem in our world today. Fortunately, we do talk about addictions today and people are more willing to get help once they are ready… it’s no longer ‘taboo.’
The main point of today’s blog is to make people aware that the layers of loss experienced by the
family and the addict are profound. While it may be easy to judge how it could be handled, it is
impossible to understand what it is like unless you walk in their shoes.
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