3 Tips to Release the Grip of Grief

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How do I know for certain that grief pays no heed to time? Because recently it gripped me by the throat and it’s been over two decades since my husband died. An announcement came forth about major government funding to create guidelines for concussion and sports. I am always advocating for brain injury awareness and […]

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Prince William Asked A Question That Changed My Life!

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For almost two months, I was under a ‘gag order’ as were my colleagues. We knew the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge were making a visit to The Cridge Centre for the Family on October 1st as part of the 2016 Royal Tour. We could not even share the excitement with our families until the government […]

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90% of Marriages after Brain Injury Could Be Saved with Supports

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The statistics given to couples following a brain injury are horrible and terrifying. They are told that upwards of 90% of marriages end in divorce after a spouse sustains a brain injury. I say… boldly… “90% of marriages could be saved when a spouse sustains a brain injury IF supports are in place for the […]

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A Change of Mind – An Important Documentary

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A Change of Mind – A Documentary on the Societal Impact of Brain Injury The Cridge Centre for the Family hosted the World Premiere of filmmaker, Hilary Pryor’s documentary, A Change of Mind. This documentary, featuring several survivors served by the Cridge including Derrick Forsyth who narrated the film, depicted the devastating impact of brain […]

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BEING UNSURE HAPPENS AFTER LOSS

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My mentor, Dr. Alan Wolfelt, taught me to approach clients with a ‘teach me attitude’. I can honestly say that every client DOES teach me something about the grief journey. One, in particular, sparked me to look at all the ways in which one’s confidence can be shattered. Events such as the death of a […]

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“I’m Okay. So You Be Okay, Okay?”

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The famous self-help book I’m Ok, You’re Ok was written in the late 1960s by Thomas Anthony Harris. Over 15 million copies of this book, which is about Transactional Analysis, have sold over the years. Transactional Analysis explains the three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for content and quality of interpersonal […]

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ONE LOSS = MULTIPLE LOSSES

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Two famous quotes come to mind as I write this article. The first is from Gertrude Stein’s 1913 poem, Sacred Emily: “A rose is a rose is a rose.” The other is from Shakespeare’s Romeo & Juliet play: “A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” Both quotes imply that no matter what […]

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THE MYTH OF STICKS AND STONES

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“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Remember this saying we used when kids at school were taunting or belittling us?  Well, if you haven’t figured it out by now, I am sorry to be the one to tell you… it’s a big lie! Here is my take on it, […]

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ACCEPTANCE IS NOT DEFEAT. IT IS WHERE YOU BEGIN.

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Motivational speaker Tom Krause said, “When life knocks you down, you have two choices—stay down or get up.” That is easier said than done, especially when something catastrophic happens and causes significant life changes. You can’t say, “It’s done and get on with it.” Life, tragedy, and healing don’t work that way. A brain injury isn’t […]

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LOSS OF CONFIDENCE IS A NORMAL GRIEF RESPONSE

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The other day I was talking to a client about confidence after one has suffered a loss. It sparked me to look at all the ways in which one’s confidence can be shattered. Events such as the death of a loved one, infidelity, divorce, relationship changes, a job loss, financial disaster and compromised health all […]

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