“I’m Okay. So You Be Okay, Okay?”

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The famous self-help book I’m Ok, You’re Ok was written in the late 1960s by Thomas Anthony Harris. Over 15 million copies of this book, which is about Transactional Analysis, have sold over the years. Transactional Analysis explains the three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for content and quality of interpersonal […]

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THE ONION EFFECT: UNDERSTANDING THE TEARS AND LAYERS OF LOSS

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As an individual travels the journey of grief, the magnitude and impact of loss is revealed in layers. Much like peeling an onion, the deeper the cut, the more tears shed. Why? Loss is incredibly painful, life-changing, chaotic, and strikes without choice. Traditional teachings state loss results from death, divorce, and other life transitions. Today’s […]

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THE MYTH OF STICKS AND STONES

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“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Remember this saying we used when kids at school were taunting or belittling us?  Well, if you haven’t figured it out by now, I am sorry to be the one to tell you… it’s a big lie! Here is my take on it, […]

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THE IMPORTANCE & BENEFIT OF PEER SUPPORT

Peer Support is essentially individuals supporting other individuals with similar or shared experiences. This support is offered one-to-one or in a group setting. The benefits of peer support are numerous, including that the supporter has credibility and is trusted because they have been through a similar experience. It’s important for the person needing support to know […]

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HEART VS. HEAD

July 24

The work of grieving and mourning is heart work not head work! When we stay in our heads while grieving, we over analyze our feelings or dismiss them. We fall prey to the myth that time heals all and we should just get over what has happened to us. Grieving and mourning is heart work. This […]

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EXTRAORDINARY LOSS

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Loss is different for each person. None of us can judge or measure the impact for another, but we can allow them to teach us the magnitude of their loss and how it has ffected them. We can honour that their grief journey is unique to them and the bumps and boulders they encounter along the […]

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WHEN THE KILLER IS YOUR SON

June 19

My heart is broken for the families of the three Moncton RCMP who were recently killed. I empathize with the path they are on and hold them in my thoughts and prayers. There is honour in knowing these officers died serving in the way they wanted to; however, the heartbreak of living without these men […]

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TRANSITIONAL LOSSES

We most often associate loss with a death; however, the same grief emotions can take hold for other kinds of losses too. You may be experiencing a transitional losses which happens with employment (laid-offs, downsizing, retirement), a child getting married or leaving home, or even moving to a new community. Adults usually find moving to a new community exciting […]

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HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY

Some time ago, I took my grandsons to see the classic children’s film, The Land Before Time. This heartwarming tale of baby orphaned dinosaurs teaches many life lessons in its 69 minutes. Littlefoot loses his mother following a battle with a Tyrannosaurus during the great earthshake. There were four important scenes for me that beautifully […]

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INTERNATIONAL BEREAVED MOTHER’S DAY

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Today is International Bereaved Mother’s Day. I did not know about this dedicated day until recently. It is a movement to help us remember all mothers, including those whose hearts are shattered following the death of a precious child. The Carly Marie Project Healwebsite explains that the traditional Mother’s Day was actually created by a […]

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