Say Yes to Living ~ Everyday!

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In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” ~Robert Frost On one hand, Robert Frost’s quote feels arrogant and uncaring to me. Certainly, there was a time in my early days of grief that I would have been deeply offended had someone said to me, “Life goes on.” On the other hand, I know […]

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3 Tips to Release the Grip of Grief

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How do I know for certain that grief pays no heed to time? Because recently it gripped me by the throat and it’s been over two decades since my husband died. An announcement came forth about major government funding to create guidelines for concussion and sports. I am always advocating for brain injury awareness and […]

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Water Magically Soothes the Soul

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I have no idea how or really why, but I do know that going to the water’s edge and allowing yourself time to sit in silence is magical. Close your eyes, breathe in the air and allow its gentleness to kiss your face. The sound of water not only soothes the soul, but it absolutely […]

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When Time is Limited for Your Loved One

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When you learn that your loved one is going to die it takes your breath away. It’s heartbreaking, terrifying, and shocking. Initially, it is hard to believe that what you think you heard is, in fact, exactly what you heard. It feels like life is moving in slow motion and yet, the news swirls inside […]

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Three Ways Rituals Help Us Heal

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Rituals are not scary practices. We all have our morning rituals (e.g. shower, brush our teeth, coffee etc.) and our nighttime rituals (e.g. work out, watch TV, journal, read etc.) that we carry out faithfully. In fact, if we didn’t do them something would feel off. We also use rituals and ceremonies to mark milestones […]

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Pocket Angels ( are for Children & Adults)

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When my husband died, my daughters and I went to stay with family. Within a few months, I put our house up for sale and purchased another home. As we made plans to move from my brother’s home into our new house, I realized it would be important for us to go back to the […]

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Children Understand Grief in a Way Adults Don’t

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Children may not fully grasp the grief process; however, they understand it in a way that adults don’t. I learned more from watching my children and nieces and nephews grieve than I did from watching adults. We are often afraid for children to experience the pain of loss. As parents and adults, we understand how […]

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A PERSON’S FAITH MAY CHANGE AFTER LOSS

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Don’t assume that a person’s faith will get them through a loss. Don’t judge if they express anger towards God. Don’t try to fix it or make it better. Instead, help them to explore their feelings. They will come to their own answers that make sense to them and it is imperative that he is […]

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NOT EVERYONE NEEDS A COUNSELLOR ~ BUT EVERYONE NEEDS A FRIEND

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Anyone who is experiencing a painful transition in life needs help now and again. You don’t have to be a counsellor to offer valuable support to them. A family member or friend can provide immeasurable help by sharing a cup of coffee with the person and listening to them talk. Sometimes, however, the person needs […]

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MIXED MESSAGES THAT CONFUSE THE BEREAVED

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From sympathy cards to handwritten notes, from neighbors to family, and from social workers to counselors there is plenty of “do this/do that” or “try this/try that” conversations offered to the bereaved. I have been bereaved and I have been the support for others; therefore, I have also been the transmitter and the receiver of […]

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