THE UNIQUE GRIEF OF POLICE, MILITARY, & FIRST-RESPONDERS

“No person was ever honored for what he received. Honor has been the reward for what he gave.” ~Calvin Coolidge, 30th President of the Unite States (1872-1933) By Janelle Breese Biagioni To Live a Life of Service We choose to live a life of service. For some this means living a life of devotion in […]

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WHAT IS A GRIEF BURST AND HOW DO YOU PREVENT ONE?

August 7 2014 tears

A grief burst is a “perfectly normal experience” after losing a loved one. A grief burst is just that… a burst of sadness and sorrow triggered by the sight of something, a song, something you read, or by a memory.  When you experience a grief burst, you may cry, have an overwhelming feeling of sadness, […]

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RESILIENCE DOESN’T TAKE AWAY THE PAIN

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To be resilient means to be able to bounce back from a difficult situation. When people hold the perception that another is strong, they also assume they are resilient and no matter what comes their way, the person is able to bounce back quickly from the situation. This skewed way of thinking is often directed at […]

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FINDING COMFORT WITH LINKING AND TRANSITIONAL OBJECTS

August 28

It is perfectly normal for people to keep an item of clothing or a piece of jewellery belonging to a loved one after they die. Sometimes this is reflected in a person’s will where they want specific item to be given to certain people. Sometimes it is an offering determined by family members wanting to […]

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WHEN THE KILLER IS YOUR SON

June 19

My heart is broken for the families of the three Moncton RCMP who were recently killed. I empathize with the path they are on and hold them in my thoughts and prayers. There is honour in knowing these officers died serving in the way they wanted to; however, the heartbreak of living without these men […]

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DO YOU HAVE THE G.U.T.S. TO DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO?

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There are many opportunities in life for change. You may choose to make the change (e.g. weight loss, relocating, employment etc.). You may not have choice in other life changes (e.g. death of a loved one, loss of employment, divorce etc.). When it is a change without choice or negotiation, at some point you do […]

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DON’T TAKE A BITTER PAST INTO THE FUTURE

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I don’t know anyone who has ALL happy memories. Life hands out both happy and sad memories. It gives us good and bad. Did you know that by dwelling on the bitter memories of the past that you are giving power to whatever it is that happened? Emotions are extremely powerful whether they are negative […]

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LOSS AND ADDICTIONS

There are many things we can become addicted to: Tobacco, drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, sex and work to name a few. People may even become addicted to seeking approval and acceptance or to anything that will give them an adrenaline rush. In my opinion, people can even be addicted to drama and chaos! People become […]

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AMBIGUOUS GRIEF

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Ambiguous grief may be a term that you are unfamiliar with. It refers to a continuous grief… a painful journey that goes on and on with no ending in sight. I prefer to include this type of grief with my definition of Extraordinary Grief, which essentially means a sorrow that is unusual or remarkable. When […]

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ACCEPTANCE

March 16 2014 Acceptance2

In my work as a counsellor, I often work with people who have difficulty in accepting they have a brain injury. Others have found it difficult to end a relationship. And of course, accepting the death of a loved one is a very challenging thing to have to do. Well-meaning friends, family and professionals are […]

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