“I’m Okay. So You Be Okay, Okay?”

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The famous self-help book I’m Ok, You’re Ok was written in the late 1960s by Thomas Anthony Harris. Over 15 million copies of this book, which is about Transactional Analysis, have sold over the years. Transactional Analysis explains the three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for content and quality of interpersonal […]

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IT’S OKAY TO DISCONNECT

The grief journey wants you to slow down and be still. For the most part, a person can do little else. The early days of loss are overwhelming and filled with confusion, numbness, endless tears, chaos, and sleepless nights. It’s a challenge to get out of bed let alone shower and get dressed. Although we […]

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GRIEF IN THE WORKPLACE

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Death is a part of life. It often happens suddenly and unexpectedly. Death is not convenient. It does not slip easily into the agenda of the person who dies or that of their family and friends, and it certainly will not fit into a normal work schedule. When people return to their normal routines, it […]

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DEALING WITH THE EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS

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The grief journey is fraught with emotions, doubts, regrets, and what-ifs. It only takes but a couple of judgements from a supporter to make us second guess how we are doing. People often expect the bereaved to be further along the grief journey than they are. This is a very difficult situation and certainly one […]

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THE ONION EFFECT: UNDERSTANDING THE TEARS AND LAYERS OF LOSS

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As an individual travels the journey of grief, the magnitude and impact of loss is revealed in layers. Much like peeling an onion, the deeper the cut, the more tears shed. Why? Loss is incredibly painful, life-changing, chaotic, and strikes without choice. Traditional teachings state loss results from death, divorce, and other life transitions. Today’s […]

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LOSS OF FAITH

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There are a number of ways that we can lose faith. When someone disappoints or betrays us, we lose faith in them. Individuals experiencing the death of a loved or a significant loss (e.g. job loss) may also say they have lost faith in God, the world, society-at-large, or in people they know. This is […]

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MOURNING AVOIDANCE

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Losing a loved one is without choice or negotiation. We don’t get to be a part of the decision. The death of a loved one usually blindsides us and then we are forced to try and figure out how to survive the ordeal and a life without them. Doing the work of grieving and mourning is not […]

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LOSS OF A SIBLING

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When my brother died, I felt as though part of me died too. I wasn’t alone in that. Brian’s wife, three children, my mother and my other siblings all felt the same. Brian had a large extended family and a circle of friends who were also devastated by his death. His sudden death left a huge void for […]

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THE MYTH OF STICKS AND STONES

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“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Remember this saying we used when kids at school were taunting or belittling us?  Well, if you haven’t figured it out by now, I am sorry to be the one to tell you… it’s a big lie! Here is my take on it, […]

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WHAT IS A GRIEF BURST AND HOW DO YOU PREVENT ONE?

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A grief burst is a “perfectly normal experience” after losing a loved one. A grief burst is just that… a burst of sadness and sorrow triggered by the sight of something, a song, something you read, or by a memory.  When you experience a grief burst, you may cry, have an overwhelming feeling of sadness, […]

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