Creating Ritual and Ceremony

Ritual and ceremony is an important way to mark milestones in life. Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays, weddings, and graduations are events infused with ritual and ceremony. It’s important to mark holidays and “rites of passage” with celebration by taking time from our daily routine to do things differently. When it comes to a loved one’s death, it’s acceptable to […]

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THE TRUE INTENT OF BOXING DAY

Dec 25

For millions, Boxing Day is the highlight of the festive season. They have no issue lining up for hours and hours to get the best buys in the department stores. I, on the other hand, cannot be bothered to step foot anywhere near shopping takes place. Boxing Day originated in the Victorian era and had nothing to […]

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A CHRISTMAS POEM

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By Helen Steiner Rice I have a list of folks I know, all written in a book And every year when Christmas comes, I go and take a look, And that is when I realize that these names are a part Not of the book they are written in, but really of my heart For […]

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WAYS TO COPE AT CHRISTMAS

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Christmas is rich with tradition and filled with joyful festivities. People look forward to spending the holidays with family and friends, exchanging gifts, indulging in delectable treats and reminiscing about the good old days. On the other hand, for bereaved families, the tinsel, decorated trees, and angelic singing of Silent Night, are painful and constant reminders that a […]

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MEMORY GARDEN

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Much like a memory collage, my belief is that a memory garden serves to facilitate a way for family and friends to enjoy memories of their loved one. A memory garden is a place of healing. It allows one to suspend life and to walk or sit in solitude while reflecting on the person who […]

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AMBIGUOUS GRIEF

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Ambiguous grief may be a term that you are unfamiliar with. It refers to a continuous grief… a painful journey that goes on and on with no ending in sight. I prefer to include this type of grief with my definition of Extraordinary Grief, which essentially means a sorrow that is unusual or remarkable. When […]

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SEX AFTER DEATH – RECLAIMING INTIMACY AFTER LOSS

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It is not uncommon for couples to experience a loss of intimacy when grieving the death of a loved one. At the conclusion of my article, I have included links to two articles addressing the loss of intimacy after the death of a child. These are both enlightening and supportive. Before the intimacy part can […]

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SOCIAL MEDIA: A NEW WAY OF SUPPORTING THE BEREAVED

Feb 27 Social Media blog

Social media, in particular Facebook, is providing an important platform for people to share their grief. The days of being isolated in the journey are over. This isn’t to say that people are no longer overwhelmed with feelings of sadness and sorrow because they can talk about it on Facebook. They still have all the […]

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Brain Injury and Grief: Fact or Fiction?

Feb 20 Brain Injury

Grief is most often associated with death. While it is true that the death of a loved one (family member, friend, or pet) and, at times, the death of people we do not know (Sandy Hook Elementary shooting) will catapult us into the grief journey, death is not the only cause of grief. Although death […]

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Rejection – It Feels Like the Ultimate Heartbreak

February 13 2014 rejection

Being rejected by another person can feel like the ultimate heartbreak. Why don’t they want me? Why don’t they love me? Why don’t they approve of me? I can’t answer those questions for you. Each of us needs to do the work of understanding why we so desperately need that person’s approval. Oprah Winfrey said […]

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