MOURNING AVOIDANCE

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Losing a loved one is without choice or negotiation. We don’t get to be a part of the decision. The death of a loved one usually blindsides us and then we are forced to try and figure out how to survive the ordeal and a life without them. Doing the work of grieving and mourning is not […]

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FINDING COMFORT WITH LINKING AND TRANSITIONAL OBJECTS

August 28

It is perfectly normal for people to keep an item of clothing or a piece of jewellery belonging to a loved one after they die. Sometimes this is reflected in a person’s will where they want specific item to be given to certain people. Sometimes it is an offering determined by family members wanting to […]

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THE #1 REASON SELF-HELP PROGRAMS DON’T WORK

Arguably, not every self-help guru is going to connect with every person on the planet. We all have different learning styles and personality preferences. If I don’t feel a connection with a person’s teaching style or writing style, I have a much harder time getting through the material. But that’s not the reason that self-help programs or […]

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MEMORY GARDEN

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Much like a memory collage, my belief is that a memory garden serves to facilitate a way for family and friends to enjoy memories of their loved one. A memory garden is a place of healing. It allows one to suspend life and to walk or sit in solitude while reflecting on the person who […]

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WHEN THE KILLER IS YOUR SON

June 19

My heart is broken for the families of the three Moncton RCMP who were recently killed. I empathize with the path they are on and hold them in my thoughts and prayers. There is honour in knowing these officers died serving in the way they wanted to; however, the heartbreak of living without these men […]

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HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY

Some time ago, I took my grandsons to see the classic children’s film, The Land Before Time. This heartwarming tale of baby orphaned dinosaurs teaches many life lessons in its 69 minutes. Littlefoot loses his mother following a battle with a Tyrannosaurus during the great earthshake. There were four important scenes for me that beautifully […]

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NATIONAL DAY OF HONOUR TO RECOGNIZE FALLEN CANADIANS

May 9th is the appointed National Day of Honour to Recognize Fallen Canadians who have given of their lives while representing our country. This day will also recognize Canadians injured or who developed an illness while serving in our forces. The deaths and impact of injury and illness will have significant impact on their families, […]

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INTERNATIONAL BEREAVED MOTHER’S DAY

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Today is International Bereaved Mother’s Day. I did not know about this dedicated day until recently. It is a movement to help us remember all mothers, including those whose hearts are shattered following the death of a precious child. The Carly Marie Project Healwebsite explains that the traditional Mother’s Day was actually created by a […]

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DON’T TAKE A BITTER PAST INTO THE FUTURE

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I don’t know anyone who has ALL happy memories. Life hands out both happy and sad memories. It gives us good and bad. Did you know that by dwelling on the bitter memories of the past that you are giving power to whatever it is that happened? Emotions are extremely powerful whether they are negative […]

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WHEN IS IT TOO SOON TO RETURN TO WORK

April 3

Matt Stajan of the Calgary Flames returned to work two short weeks after his newborn son, Emerson died. Is that too soon? In reading the Sun News online article, I have to say he seems to have given this much thought and he is doing what feels right for him and his wife, Katie. This […]

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