LOSS OF A SIBLING

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When my brother died, I felt as though part of me died too. I wasn’t alone in that. Brian’s wife, three children, my mother and my other siblings all felt the same. Brian had a large extended family and a circle of friends who were also devastated by his death. His sudden death left a huge void for […]

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Creating Ritual and Ceremony

Ritual and ceremony is an important way to mark milestones in life. Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays, weddings, and graduations are events infused with ritual and ceremony. It’s important to mark holidays and “rites of passage” with celebration by taking time from our daily routine to do things differently. When it comes to a loved one’s death, it’s acceptable to […]

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A CHRISTMAS POEM

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By Helen Steiner Rice I have a list of folks I know, all written in a book And every year when Christmas comes, I go and take a look, And that is when I realize that these names are a part Not of the book they are written in, but really of my heart For […]

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THE SIMPLE THINGS

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Why do coffee and weekend mornings go together so well? It’s like a little piece of heaven to slow things down and enjoy some time to relax with a good cup of coffee, a good book, or good company. It’s something that we often take for granted. When life takes a sudden turn upside down […]

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FINDING COMFORT WITH LINKING AND TRANSITIONAL OBJECTS

August 28

It is perfectly normal for people to keep an item of clothing or a piece of jewellery belonging to a loved one after they die. Sometimes this is reflected in a person’s will where they want specific item to be given to certain people. Sometimes it is an offering determined by family members wanting to […]

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MEMORY GARDEN

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Much like a memory collage, my belief is that a memory garden serves to facilitate a way for family and friends to enjoy memories of their loved one. A memory garden is a place of healing. It allows one to suspend life and to walk or sit in solitude while reflecting on the person who […]

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WHEN IS IT TOO SOON TO RETURN TO WORK

April 3

Matt Stajan of the Calgary Flames returned to work two short weeks after his newborn son, Emerson died. Is that too soon? In reading the Sun News online article, I have to say he seems to have given this much thought and he is doing what feels right for him and his wife, Katie. This […]

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AMBIGUOUS GRIEF

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Ambiguous grief may be a term that you are unfamiliar with. It refers to a continuous grief… a painful journey that goes on and on with no ending in sight. I prefer to include this type of grief with my definition of Extraordinary Grief, which essentially means a sorrow that is unusual or remarkable. When […]

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ACCEPTANCE

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In my work as a counsellor, I often work with people who have difficulty in accepting they have a brain injury. Others have found it difficult to end a relationship. And of course, accepting the death of a loved one is a very challenging thing to have to do. Well-meaning friends, family and professionals are […]

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SEX AFTER DEATH – RECLAIMING INTIMACY AFTER LOSS

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It is not uncommon for couples to experience a loss of intimacy when grieving the death of a loved one. At the conclusion of my article, I have included links to two articles addressing the loss of intimacy after the death of a child. These are both enlightening and supportive. Before the intimacy part can […]

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