HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY

Some time ago, I took my grandsons to see the classic children’s film, The Land Before Time. This heartwarming tale of baby orphaned dinosaurs teaches many life lessons in its 69 minutes. Littlefoot loses his mother following a battle with a Tyrannosaurus during the great earthshake. There were four important scenes for me that beautifully […]

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LOSS AND ADDICTIONS

There are many things we can become addicted to: Tobacco, drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, sex and work to name a few. People may even become addicted to seeking approval and acceptance or to anything that will give them an adrenaline rush. In my opinion, people can even be addicted to drama and chaos! People become […]

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AMBIGUOUS GRIEF

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Ambiguous grief may be a term that you are unfamiliar with. It refers to a continuous grief… a painful journey that goes on and on with no ending in sight. I prefer to include this type of grief with my definition of Extraordinary Grief, which essentially means a sorrow that is unusual or remarkable. When […]

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SEX AFTER DEATH – RECLAIMING INTIMACY AFTER LOSS

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It is not uncommon for couples to experience a loss of intimacy when grieving the death of a loved one. At the conclusion of my article, I have included links to two articles addressing the loss of intimacy after the death of a child. These are both enlightening and supportive. Before the intimacy part can […]

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SOCIAL MEDIA: A NEW WAY OF SUPPORTING THE BEREAVED

Feb 27 Social Media blog

Social media, in particular Facebook, is providing an important platform for people to share their grief. The days of being isolated in the journey are over. This isn’t to say that people are no longer overwhelmed with feelings of sadness and sorrow because they can talk about it on Facebook. They still have all the […]

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Brain Injury and Grief: Fact or Fiction?

Feb 20 Brain Injury

Grief is most often associated with death. While it is true that the death of a loved one (family member, friend, or pet) and, at times, the death of people we do not know (Sandy Hook Elementary shooting) will catapult us into the grief journey, death is not the only cause of grief. Although death […]

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Rejection – It Feels Like the Ultimate Heartbreak

February 13 2014 rejection

Being rejected by another person can feel like the ultimate heartbreak. Why don’t they want me? Why don’t they love me? Why don’t they approve of me? I can’t answer those questions for you. Each of us needs to do the work of understanding why we so desperately need that person’s approval. Oprah Winfrey said […]

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Making The Choice To Survive

When we think about choice, we think about the mundane things in life, “What should we have for dinner…. Pizza or Chinese?” Or it’s the big things, “Should we buy a house or keep renting?” Rarely do we give thought to how we can choose anything we want and that it is in our choices […]

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Walking the Path of Grief is Like Peeling an Onion

Onions January 23 2014

The grief journey is like peeling an onion ~ there are layers and layers to the loss and there will be many tears! Tears have long been misinterpreted as a sign of weakness. We all know males who were told from a young age, “Big boys don’t cry.” For women, while it is more acceptable […]

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3 Reasons Why You Should Tell the Story of Your Deceased Loved One (often!)

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Have you found the need to talk about your deceased loved one often? And, do others tell you that you shouldn’t? There are three important reasons that you should share your loved one’s story. Moreover, repeating the story over and over is part of the process. When someone dies, those closest to them are often […]

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