IS IT TIME TO STOP VISITING THE GRAVE?

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My question could bring about a variety of responses. I would guess though that the answer depends on whether you have endured a profound loss. People visit the graves of their loved one because it brings them comfort. It helps them to feel connected to them. And it’s a visual reminder of the reality that […]

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“I’m Okay. So You Be Okay, Okay?”

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The famous self-help book I’m Ok, You’re Ok was written in the late 1960s by Thomas Anthony Harris. Over 15 million copies of this book, which is about Transactional Analysis, have sold over the years. Transactional Analysis explains the three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for content and quality of interpersonal […]

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IT’S OKAY TO DISCONNECT

The grief journey wants you to slow down and be still. For the most part, a person can do little else. The early days of loss are overwhelming and filled with confusion, numbness, endless tears, chaos, and sleepless nights. It’s a challenge to get out of bed let alone shower and get dressed. Although we […]

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ANNOUNCING A FUND TO HELP THOSE THROUGH LOSS

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This announcement is near and dear to my heart. My brother, Brian’s middle name was Ranica; since he and my husband died, I have wanted to open Ranica House – a bereavement centre to help people through loss. I am not there yet; however, I have recently established Ranica House Press for my books to be published under […]

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ONE SMALL STEP

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Neil Armstrong was the first man to step on the moon. The world watched in awe as he took that step in 1969 and said, “That’s one small step for man, one giant leap for mankind.” Armstrong’s work as a NASA astronaut not only changed the world, but it changed his life. He did what he needed to […]

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IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO DO THE WORK OF MOURNING

June 26

Five-time Grammy Award winner, Shania Twain bared her soul in both the reality series Why Not? (OWN) and book From This Moment On. Shania shares the heart-wrenching loss of her parents who died in a car crash when she was only 22 years old and the painful ending to her marriage following an affair that her husband and […]

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MEMORY GARDEN

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Much like a memory collage, my belief is that a memory garden serves to facilitate a way for family and friends to enjoy memories of their loved one. A memory garden is a place of healing. It allows one to suspend life and to walk or sit in solitude while reflecting on the person who […]

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WHEN THE KILLER IS YOUR SON

June 19

My heart is broken for the families of the three Moncton RCMP who were recently killed. I empathize with the path they are on and hold them in my thoughts and prayers. There is honour in knowing these officers died serving in the way they wanted to; however, the heartbreak of living without these men […]

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TIME DISTORTION

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You know how when you are on holidays you lose track of time and perhaps go about your day aimlessly not checking the calendar or even your watch? That happens when you are grieving too. The downside is that your sense of time and space are not distorted because you are relaxing and having fun. […]

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HOLDING HOPE IN THE MIDST OF DESPAIR

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As of yesterday afternoon, fourteen loved ones were confirmed dead and one hundred or more still missing. The hope of finding survivors is waning as each hour passes; however, the families and friends of those missing are desperately praying for a miracle. The recent mudslide near Oso, Washington spans nearly 2 sq. miles. Search and Rescue […]

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