THE ONION EFFECT: UNDERSTANDING THE TEARS AND LAYERS OF LOSS

Onions

As an individual travels the journey of grief, the magnitude and impact of loss is revealed in layers. Much like peeling an onion, the deeper the cut, the more tears shed. Why? Loss is incredibly painful, life-changing, chaotic, and strikes without choice. Traditional teachings state loss results from death, divorce, and other life transitions. Today’s […]

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To Die in Service ~ Heartbreak for a Nation

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On October 22, 2014, a Canadian soldier was killed as he stood guard at our National War Memorial in Ottawa. The day before, two soldiers were deliberately rundown in a Montreal parking lot by a newly converted jihadist: one of them died. Our flag is flying at half-mast. The deaths of these two soldiers will have […]

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FINDING COMFORT WITH LINKING AND TRANSITIONAL OBJECTS

August 28

It is perfectly normal for people to keep an item of clothing or a piece of jewellery belonging to a loved one after they die. Sometimes this is reflected in a person’s will where they want specific item to be given to certain people. Sometimes it is an offering determined by family members wanting to […]

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LOSS AND ADDICTIONS

There are many things we can become addicted to: Tobacco, drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, sex and work to name a few. People may even become addicted to seeking approval and acceptance or to anything that will give them an adrenaline rush. In my opinion, people can even be addicted to drama and chaos! People become […]

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SOCIAL MEDIA: A NEW WAY OF SUPPORTING THE BEREAVED

Feb 27 Social Media blog

Social media, in particular Facebook, is providing an important platform for people to share their grief. The days of being isolated in the journey are over. This isn’t to say that people are no longer overwhelmed with feelings of sadness and sorrow because they can talk about it on Facebook. They still have all the […]

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Rejection – It Feels Like the Ultimate Heartbreak

February 13 2014 rejection

Being rejected by another person can feel like the ultimate heartbreak. Why don’t they want me? Why don’t they love me? Why don’t they approve of me? I can’t answer those questions for you. Each of us needs to do the work of understanding why we so desperately need that person’s approval. Oprah Winfrey said […]

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Walking the Path of Grief is Like Peeling an Onion

Onions January 23 2014

The grief journey is like peeling an onion ~ there are layers and layers to the loss and there will be many tears! Tears have long been misinterpreted as a sign of weakness. We all know males who were told from a young age, “Big boys don’t cry.” For women, while it is more acceptable […]

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