The #1 Thing that Will Hold You Back

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IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT IS BEFORE YOU No matter where you are at in life, not doing this will hold you back. No matter if things are going well or if you are struggling, if you don’t do this you remain where you are. No matter what opportunities come your way, if you neglect […]

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Three Ways Rituals Help Us Heal

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Rituals are not scary practices. We all have our morning rituals (e.g. shower, brush our teeth, coffee etc.) and our nighttime rituals (e.g. work out, watch TV, journal, read etc.) that we carry out faithfully. In fact, if we didn’t do them something would feel off. We also use rituals and ceremonies to mark milestones […]

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Children Understand Grief in a Way Adults Don’t

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Children may not fully grasp the grief process; however, they understand it in a way that adults don’t. I learned more from watching my children and nieces and nephews grieve than I did from watching adults. We are often afraid for children to experience the pain of loss. As parents and adults, we understand how […]

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A PERSON’S FAITH MAY CHANGE AFTER LOSS

A Person's Faith May Change After Loss

Don’t assume that a person’s faith will get them through a loss. Don’t judge if they express anger towards God. Don’t try to fix it or make it better. Instead, help them to explore their feelings. They will come to their own answers that make sense to them and it is imperative that he is […]

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NOT EVERYONE NEEDS A COUNSELLOR ~ BUT EVERYONE NEEDS A FRIEND

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Anyone who is experiencing a painful transition in life needs help now and again. You don’t have to be a counsellor to offer valuable support to them. A family member or friend can provide immeasurable help by sharing a cup of coffee with the person and listening to them talk. Sometimes, however, the person needs […]

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BEING UNSURE HAPPENS AFTER LOSS

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My mentor, Dr. Alan Wolfelt, taught me to approach clients with a ‘teach me attitude’. I can honestly say that every client DOES teach me something about the grief journey. One, in particular, sparked me to look at all the ways in which one’s confidence can be shattered. Events such as the death of a […]

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ELEPHANTS

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We can learn so much from children and animals. Their ability to understand (at whatever level they are at) does not impede their ability to feel love or loss. For example, let’s chat about elephants. There is a plethora of documentation on how these majestic animals show feelings. Elephants are expressive animals and they have […]

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NOVEMBER IS CHILDHOOD GRIEF AWARENESS MONTH

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No one wants to see a child hurt, especially me! But unfortunately, I have come to accept through personal experience that eliminating loss from life is not an option. And, that does mean children will be impacted. In 2009, the U.S. Census Bureau released Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2007, which estimated […]

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SOMETIMES COUNSELLING IS A BETTER OPTION

Not everyone needs counselling after suffering a loss, but everyone needs a friend. Having said that, there are times when family and friends are not the best support. The grief journey is a very tricky path. It is fraught with twists and turns and the intense sorrow can wash over a person when they least […]

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